3 Myths about sex that could ruin your sex life

Let’s be real – no man wants to admit that he had it all wrong about sex. Hell, no man wants to admit he was even a little bit wrong about sex. In fact, if you ask teenage boys and young adult males how much they know about it, they’ll probably tell you they’re experts on the topic.

Yes, I’m talking to you, too. But the reality is, even adult males, who have been having sex for a while, can run around with misconceptions of what constitutes good sex – and an even better sex life – swirling in their heads. Then, guess what happens?

They carry this misinformation with them – into every relationship and/or sexual encounter. Yikes! The good news is that misconceptions don’t have to ruin your sex life. With this trusty article, you can have the best sexual experience of your life.

Listed below are three misconceptions or myths about sex that could ruin your life:

 

Common myths about sex that could ruin your sex life

1.) Everyone’s having lots of sex – but you!

It sucks to feel like you’re the only one who isn’t having a lot of sex. I mean, what would your “brohams” think if they found out that you aren’t having all that much action? Well, guess what? If you’re not having tons and tons of sex – you’re not alone.

One of the common myths about sex floating around implies that to have a killer sex life, you must be having mucho sex (or at the very least, sex a specific number of times, per week or days). Well, it’s time to bust this misconception, because it could ruin your sex life.

The truth is, “everyone” is NOT having lots of sex. Not even your “brohams,” although they may tell you they are. Sex is an individual choice, something that is yours and only yours to make. If you have a partner, it’s a choice that only you and your partner can make.

So it doesn’t matter if you have sex once or several times a week. The goal should always be to make the times you do have sex “count,” you feel me? In other words: the key to a good sex life is not how many times you do it. Rather, how good it is when you do it.

 

2.) To have great sex, your partner must orgasm.

Believe it or not – not all women orgasm from penetration! Shocking, I know. The thing is, when you become obsessed with the notion that your partner must orgasm (preferably multiple times) to have great sex, you risk ruining your own sex life.

What do I mean? When you equate mind-blowing sex with orgasms, it ruins the whole experience – for you and your partner. In fact, worrying too much about making your partner orgasm can actually lead to performance anxiety. The result: you end up being more in your head, than in the moment.

You may not know this, but anxiety and erectile dysfunction are closely related. So when questions like: “Am I doing it right?”“Will I last long enough for her to orgasm?”and “what will she think of me, if I can’t make her orgasm?” – swim around in your head before, during, or after sex, it can extinguish the flame you could have, are having, or may have in the future.

Remember: sex is meant to be enjoyable and intimate – with some fun sprinkled in. Therefore, the best thing you can do is squash myths about sex that your partner must orgasm to have a great experience.

So, how can you get out your head long enough to enjoy sex? I recommend being more open to other sexual activities. Take a step back and fully engage in what’s making you and your partner feel good. Don’t self-sabotage yourself by intertwining intercourse with your sex life. Instead, focus on the here-and-now. Gauge how you are feeling before moving to the next step.

Why don’t you focus on foreplay, instead of immediately rushing to do the deed? Just so you can prove to yourself that you have a great sex life? How about this: alternate when you have sex and when you just have foreplay. But don’t automatically assume that giving your partner a penetration-based orgasm is the only way to have magnificent sex, because that’s not always true.

There are other ways to get your partner to orgasm – ways that don’t involve intercourse. Truthfully, foreplay rocks because it removes the pressure, encourages creativity, AND builds excitement for when you finally do it.

 

3.) Long-term relationship sex is boring.

Guys are taught early on to be adventurous, exploratory, and carefree. So it makes sense that some feel that long-term relationship sex is…conventional and boring. Many people define this type of sex as monotonous, usually between a married, heterosexual couple – in bed with the lights turned off and covers pulled up to their necks.

But the truth is, many couples don’t engage in just “vanilla sex”. If they do, they typically change it up. Remember, different strokes for different folks. So what may be boring to one man may offer stability and routine to another.

The good news is, if you find conventional, missionary-style sex uninspired, there are ways to slightly “spice” things up. Don’t let such myths about sex cause unnecessary chaos in your bedroom or relationship.

Have you ever thought about playing sex games with your partner to create sparks, while adding a little variety to the mix? There are always adult flicks or toys. But your partner may or may not be into that, so tread lightly with this one.

Be creative and think outside-the-box. Conventional sex doesn’t have to be boring. But if you keep thinking it must be a certain way to be good, you could ruin your sex life.

 

In conclusion…

There are a lot of myths about sex floating around. Even though you may think you know everything there is to know about the subject, there’s always more to learn. If you allow misunderstandings to dictate how you conduct your sex life, it will ruin it.

So the best thing you can do is ask questions and keep an open mind. If you do those two things, I guarantee that your sex life will be golden.

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